Set Your Arena For A Joy-Filled Life!
Are your wondering just what your arena is? It's not about your intention or just an intellectual process. It's not about intention, but more. It's about energy. Our state of being is like an energy field. Whatever we are feeling, whatever vibes we are giving off attracts like energy to us. So being conscious of the state of our being is essential. And we can set our energies.
It's about "5 qualities of being." It's about authentic living. It's a way of being, not a diet or a prescription. I find this theory to be most enlightening, and so I will do my best to help you know how to set your arena if you so choose. It's about "Who am I willing to be"?
Maria Nemeth, Ph.D., a Master Certified Coach and transformational seminar leader, has honed a specific formula for setting a space for coaching. A colleague introduced me to this theory and practice. We expanded the concept to set our arena for the day, not only a coaching session.
We have partnered and have bracketed out five-minute time frames to set our arenas four days a week. We are diligent about staying focused, present and engaged in our five minutes. Being totally present and witnessing is very powerful. Sometimes we discuss the theory and/or how it impacts our lives, but we're always focused on the arena. I have to chew things over to understand them to implement them, so we do delve into the application. We do visit sometimes afterward, but we bracket that time off very intentionally.
Now, let's see about how to set your arena. There are concrete steps. My understanding is that Dr. Nemeth has done a lot of research and experimentation to create these seemingly simple actions. Each partner is to be fully present. And you take turns with the process.
The first question for both coaching and setting the day's arena is: "Are you ready to set the arena?"
Wait for the response: "Yes."
The second question for coaching: "Who are you willing to be to produce an extraordinary result out of this interaction?"
For setting the day's agenda, it is: "Who are you willing to be to produce extraordinary results out of your interactions today?"
Now your partner chooses 5 words from Dr. Nemeth's compiled list below. The list was synthesized through many words and much research. So the choice of words is very intentional.
Willing to be a demand for learning, took some chewing for sure. Best I can understand, some lessons will come from your interactions as you stay in your chosen states of "being" framed by your chosen words. For instance, I noticed that I didn't like to choose the words truthful or vulnerable. I think they remind me of the historical hurt associated with these words. But truthfulness and vulnerability are both components of intimacy, so I need to learn to be in this space in a healthy way. To couple, them with the word Kind may help.
But the wording is, "are you willing to be a demand" for coaching so that you learn from your encounters? Are you willing to be vulnerable to your experiences? Are you willing to be open to life and let it teach you what you need to learn so that you can be successful? In whatever action you're in! Will you search out and bring toward you all the lessons that are available? Remember, energy attracts.
Are you willing to set your arena, hold your energy, embrace extraordinary results, practice authentic living, to look, see, and tell the truth? Are you willing to call a partner? Set your arena for living a joy-filled life! Say YES! And enjoy! Your arena matters.
Get ready. Set your arena. Go!
Choose 5 "Qualities of Being Reset":
Alert
Appreciative
Attentive
Clear
Compassionate
Courageous
Creative
Empowering
Enthusiastic
Flexible
Focused
Gentle
Generous Grateful
Joyous
Kind
Loving
Open
Present
Receptive
Supportive
Truthful
Vulnerable